The Will To Forgive


In a previous Video Blog, I shared Seven Truths about Evolving Through Adversity and Building Strong Relationships with Trust.

In this post, I want to explore the Power of Forgiveness, especially when trust has been broken. Do you find it hard to forgive somebody after an offense? Well, you’re not alone! The truth is, many of us have a hard time letting go of an offense even though forgiveness is the best thing that can happen to you!

You’ve probably heard me say that Everybody Goes Through Adversity One Way or Another, But How Your Respond Is What Makes the Difference Between You and The Next Person! This is true in any situation, and being able to forgive is a great way in responding to life’s adversities.

Here are a few questions for you to ponder:

  • Do you have any resentment or bitterness toward someone, and no matter what you do, you still can’t shake it off?

This could be a sign of unforgiven instances in your life. I know from personal experiences that forgiving can be easily said than done. But, the good news is, it can be done! To learn and grow from adversity, you must first reflect on it and take the steps to heal. One of the tools I know helped me in my own adversities and allowed me to change and grow was learning how to forgive.

In Chapter 20 of my book Evolving Through Adversity, I wrote about Forgiving: Forgiving myself and forgiving others. In the chapter, I share how I was under the weight of unforgiven situations, and it was literally making me sick! So, when I learned the power of forgiveness, it was like I became a different person, a new person! But the truth is, I became more of myself, my authentic self. Forgiving freed me from my self-imposed grips. I could finally find it in me to love myself, and love others.

Many of my readers have shared their feedback, and the chapter on Forgiving still rates the highest in their feedback. I highly recommend it for anyone who’s been hurt by anyone else, especially from childhood traumas. It’s available in all book forms: paperback, kindle book and audiobook. In the chapter, I shared how forgiveness saved my life, saved my health, my career, and resurrected my marriage! It gave me my power back. That’s why I’m always excited whenever I share my journey to forgiving with others.

With everything happening in the world, now more than ever before, we need to guard our hearts and wear an armor of emotional strengths. Be it in our families, workplace, communities, or our government institutions, there seems to be no shortage of drama. The one thing I know for sure about forgiveness is that it’s a choice! And it takes the will to forgive, and we all have access to it. So, don’t wait, you’ve got the power, use it!

Wherever divisions stem from: political affiliations, state border conflicts, ethnic, racial, and religion divisions, or just pure misunderstandings, imagine if you will, what would happen if people could forgive each other and live in harmony with one another. I’m usually called naïve to think that people can just get along and hug it out, but I believe it’s possible if people have the will to forgive the past, learn from it, and improve relationships to move forward.

Below, I Share the Five Truths I’ve Learned About Forgiveness to Guide You on Your Journey To Forgiving:

  1. Forgiveness is a Journey not a Destination: Start Forgiving Today! Don’t put it off for tomorrow, because tomorrow is not guaranteed, but you have today for sure!
  2. Forgiveness Doesn’t Equate Condoning Evil: No, it doesn’t mean you’re letting them off the hook!
  3. Forgiving is not inviting the offense back: Heck no!
  4. Forgiving Is for You, Not the Person You’re Forgiving: You forgive for you to live a bondage-free life!
  5. Forgiving Cannot Be Rushed: People cope differently to life’s adversities, and so, forgiving might not come easily for you at first. But, if you’re committed, it will happen.

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