Like many people, I like to make new year’s resolutions. But before we transition from 2018 into 2019, I like to take a little time to reflect on the year that’s ending. And maybe you too, are thinking on how to end 2018, and begin a new year with a clear vision. I would advise not to rush into making new year’s resolutions without taking the time to think back at how 2018 was for you; and what, if anything you need to change in order to make 2019 even stronger.

I believe that looking back gives us the information we need on where we did well, and where we still need some work. Whether it’s in our personal, professional, or social life, there is always something to learn from every experience. Reflecting gives us the opportunity to start the new year with a clean slate.

This is what evolving is all about. Evolving simply means that you are growing, learning and sharing from where you are and with what you have at any given moment. Evolving is a journey, not a destination. And to me, that’s what success is all about. As Earl Nightingale said, “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal or ideal…” The most important thing to know is whether you are growing personally, professionally and socially, and aiming towards self-realization. Success is not about having a perfect life, or perfect relationships, or perfect anything. There is no such thing as perfect in the human experience. Even if 2018 was a great year for you, there is always another level up. There is always something new to learn, there are new people to meet, new relationships to forge, and old ones to mend or simply let go. There are new places to discover and new ideas to try.

You can begin with your personal relationships, because our personal relationships reflect where we are in life. And oftentimes, they spill over into our professional and social lives. Below, I want to share some of the key pointers you can use to assess whether or not 2018 was a good year for you. And then, you can make new resolutions for 2019 to improve, or change whatever you can change. This also means that you will need to assess what you cannot change, and let it go. One of the things you cannot change for instance is other people’s behaviors. Alert! Yeah, I’m sorry to break it to you, and you know it’s true! Just remember that the only person you can truly change is yourself, so you can respond better to situations.

The six pointers below will help you ponder on how 2018 was, and see where you still need work to either reinforce what worked well, or change what didn’t work, and make 2019 a better year for you. Take a Reflecting Journal or a Diary, and jot down your reflections on the six topics I have shared. There is no wrong answer, and no need to rush. Personal growth cannot be rushed.

And if you have questions or need help, let me know. If you find these pointers helpful, please share your feedback, and let others know what you are doing to grow both personally and professionally. The six topics are an excerpt from my book, A Leader’s Companion Workbook to Evolving Through Adversity, and if you would like to read the whole book, please follow the link to my books below.

I hope these nuggets of insights will help you as you transition into the new year, and begin to reflect and make new resolutions.

Six Topics to Ponder as You Work to Evolve

Excerpt from A LEADER’S COMPANION WORKBOOK to Evolving Through Adversity: Strategies for Personal and Professional Success 

 1.  The Way You See Yourself: Confidence, Self-Worth and Self-Esteem

2.  The Way You Care About Yourself: Getting Your Needs Met

3.  The Way You Love and Are Loved: Loving Relationships That Work

4.  The Way You Manage Change: Your Pains, Your Joys and Everything in Between

5.  The Way You Juggle: Your Family, Your Career and Your Community

6. The Way You Live: Your Purpose, Your Passion and Your Legacy.

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I wish you nothing but to be a stronger you, a better you, the best version of you.

Happy New Year 2019!